Caregiving is both gratifying and exhausting. Taking care of yourself ensures you can be present, resilient and strong—not just for them, but for yourself too.
Why self-care matters
Caregivers who are “non-traditional” caregivers (friends, chosen family) face higher risk of stress, depression and health issues.
If you’re supporting an LGBTQ loved one, you may also carry emotional labour around identity affirmation: advocating in medical settings, dealing with discrimination threat, supporting partner/chosen family.
Neglecting your own health, mental-wellness and social supports can lead to burnout, reduced quality of support, feelings of isolation.
Self-care domains for you
1. Emotional & mental health
Recognise your feelings: fear, guilt, anger, helplessness.
Seek an LGBTQ-affirming therapist or support peer group for caregivers.
Practice reflection: “What am I feeling today? What small win can I celebrate?”
2. Physical health & wellness
Create boundaries: schedule rest, time off, ask for help in practical tasks.
Maintain your own medical check-ups, sleep, healthy food, exercise. Caregiving may dominate your day—you still need your health.
3. Partner/ chosen family & relationship health
If you’re a partner/support person, check in on your relationship: how is the dynamic changing? Are both of you supported?
If you’re a friend or chosen family, recognise your role: you may not have legal rights as “spouse” but your presence matters. Advocate for recognition if needed.
4. Identity awareness & ally role
Reflect on your role: As ally you’re supporting an LGBTQ person—ensure you stay grounded in respect, learning, humility.
5. Practical support & respite
Build a caregiving network: ask other friends/family to rotate tasks (rides, meals, check-ins) so no single person is overloaded.
Action steps for you
Set aside 30 minutes this week for a “self-care check-in”: how are you physically? emotionally? socially?